tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post9142932478936270597..comments2024-03-23T19:22:36.665-05:00Comments on Circling My Head: 50s Housewife Quiz No. 5Reneehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11785932958464359112noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-23280446051181424982010-11-26T15:06:32.598-06:002010-11-26T15:06:32.598-06:00I wish life was still like this. I would love to b...I wish life was still like this. I would love to be able to serve my husband in this way without being looked at as a doormat.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-15443212076972289472009-04-10T08:43:00.000-05:002009-04-10T08:43:00.000-05:00Very Ideal, you make me miss my hubby:-(Very Ideal, you make me miss my hubby:-(KIM-QOAShttp://www.yes4car.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-84293282951150129142009-04-05T22:15:00.000-05:002009-04-05T22:15:00.000-05:00I don't know..I don't see how a little catering is...I don't know..I don't see how a little catering is a bad thing..I like to to be taken care of..why wouldn't he enjoy that? Why have we become so hardened? How is it that taking care of someone's physical needs, a husband in this case, is beneath us? Anyway I live in sunny California and I long for your cool and wet days..I need an AC..that's what I need. By the way and speaking of caring, I sent you a little cae package, expect it soon. Love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-39902931131431980252009-04-05T13:18:00.000-05:002009-04-05T13:18:00.000-05:00"our haven may not have order but it certainly has..."our haven may not have order but it certainly has rest"<BR/>amen to that!<BR/><BR/><BR/>LOVE IT!<BR/>Love You!<BR/>xoxo.<BR/>Taylor.taylornoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-1759082840635325812009-04-04T21:42:00.000-05:002009-04-04T21:42:00.000-05:00I enjoyed reading your post Renee.The other day I ...I enjoyed reading your post Renee.<BR/><BR/>The other day I was reading all the things a wife needs to do when the husband gets home ( from years ago)<BR/>Makes me laugh to think about it.<BR/><BR/>To freshen up and tie a ribbion in your hair and to bring his slippers and the newspaper.<BR/>I am glad times have changed, for <BR/>the better.<BR/><BR/>Hugs<BR/>CarolynDraffin Bearshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01448539647442095635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-61218171721965266972009-04-03T20:50:00.000-05:002009-04-03T20:50:00.000-05:00I love Delwyn's comment! My word verification ...I love Delwyn's comment! My word verification is unsitz, huh? Reminds me of unsettled, "unsituated" those are not words to use in the same discussion as having one's home as one's haven... <BR/>Oh well, I've been watching these "words" for a while & have tried to think of a blog to do with them ... so far no luck with that idea. How about "wiglity"? Like the way that sounds!Cheryl Catohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13294358830518520566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-59937983602828798102009-04-03T16:02:00.000-05:002009-04-03T16:02:00.000-05:00Ces, again I agree, it is very sexy and a total tu...Ces, again I agree, it is very sexy and a total turn on - boy oh boy if only I heard my husband say something like that!! xoxo to youShellynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-40312105551044208242009-04-03T14:32:00.000-05:002009-04-03T14:32:00.000-05:00Teehee! Shelly, I am glad you see my point because...Teehee! Shelly, I am glad you see my point because to this day, I never find it demeaning for a wife or emasculating for a man to serve or do things for each other. In fact I find it very sexy and a turn on and I don't find having a satisfactory sexual relationship making me less equal! As for beer, I don't drink beer, never have even tasted it, so I don't ever get a chance to go to the fridge to get it for myself, let alone for him. Besides, we have a refrigerator in the carport storeroom just for drinks so he and his friends can get the drinks for themselves. I call it the "Redneck Refrigerator" Every Texas home in my area seems to have a second fridge in the garage or storeroom just for drinks (beer, soda, and water) - comes handy during the summer months, they don't have to get in and out of the house just for drinks. Short of it: I love men in general and the things they do for women they love and admire, I love my husband and he loves me. That does not mean that we don't irritate, annoy and get upset (mostly me) with each other. <BR/><BR/>I once admonished my son for not holding the door for open for me and his sister and his response was "...but you're okay!" meaning not sick or disabled. I told him not to wait for anyone to get sick to start doing something nice for them. He replied that if he did that at school, the girls will think he is interested in them, so that's another topic.<BR/><BR/>Thank you so much!!! Oh that tickles me to think I am like you, her sister! Ooh cool!<BR/><BR/>Shelly, you should blog! You are just like Renee, a mental ninja but different and special in your own way.<BR/><BR/>See Renee, your blog and you prompt this interesting and stimulating conversations around the world.<BR/><BR/>...and the word verification is "leade" how appropriate for your blog!Ces Adoriohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17338000465619901229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-80203998484094589532009-04-03T13:12:00.000-05:002009-04-03T13:12:00.000-05:00Hmmm, cokboos huh? Well that's what happens when y...Hmmm, cokboos huh? Well that's what happens when you have a two year old on your lap when your trying to type... I meant to write Cookbooks, but I actually think cokboos is funnier. *Wink<BR/><BR/>CES- It's good that you've got that kind of thing going with your hubby. I think that it's based on mutual respect and understanding. No need to be subservient, only decent. If you notice when your husband is tierd and do something for him, hopefully he will return the favor. (Op, two year old is back...)Strawberry Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03395571842364752995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-19964094277802330132009-04-03T12:42:00.000-05:002009-04-03T12:42:00.000-05:00I was born in the 60s to a family who were mentall...I was born in the 60s to a family who were mentally stuck in the <BR/>50s. They tried very, very hard to weld a tray into my hands, but thankfully, it just wouldn't stick.<BR/>;-)pRiyAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11238366312590419659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-19454984522861139632009-04-03T11:54:00.000-05:002009-04-03T11:54:00.000-05:00"I heard one of them said that he wished he would ..."I heard one of them said that he wished he would find a wife like me."<BR/><BR/>I have heard this a million times over from my WIFE'S friends, many of whom are divorced women who have to go home from an eight hour shift to cook and do dishes for their children. In terms of numbers of hours worked, the woman in the old photo probably had it pretty good.<BR/><BR/>What bothered me most about so many of the comments was the notion that catering to another person's needs is inherently degrading, yet this is what the service industry is about, and I daresay that most of the people in the service industry are women. I also got the image of women who are just, by god, waiting for some man to ask them to do something for him, so they will can leap out of their chairs, and stand over him with arms folded and feet firmly planted on the ground as they self-righteously proclaim, "You've got two arms and two legs, mother-fucker, get it yourself!"<BR/><BR/>As for not taking your husband beer, my wife doesn't drink much beer, but she sure puts away a lot of milk, and guess who takes it to her and then watches to see when her glass is getting empty, so he can ask if she wants some more. I actually think she deserves such treatment after her long shift, and I suppose she's happy enough with it: we've been married 37 years. Now that I've had surgery, she's waiting on me and anticipating my needs, and that's pretty nice too. God, but I would hate to be with someone who had such a chip on their shoulder that they would consider it degrading to ever lift a hand to serve someone else.Snowbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00436087215476479042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-7092085200241129162009-04-03T11:02:00.000-05:002009-04-03T11:02:00.000-05:00Ces,You have articulated my feelings so well with ...Ces,<BR/>You have articulated my feelings so well with what you wrote. I have never felt that caring for my husband or doing things to make him happy makes me subservient – and I too feel like a diva to my husband.<BR/><BR/>It could only have been a well loved, cared for and respected husband who would give his son such great advice. That must have really warmed your heart when your heard that!<BR/><BR/>No wonder Renee loves you so much, you are just like me…oh, except for the fact that I have gotten my husband many a beer...lolShellynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-24430526737708725942009-04-03T10:08:00.000-05:002009-04-03T10:08:00.000-05:00It makes me shriek with laughter at the thought th...It makes me shriek with laughter at the thought that my darling, delightful, gorgeous Mama could ever be as subservient as the supposedly quintessential 50s housewife! She was quite the opposite and, boy, did my Daddy love her just the way she was - as we all did! And yes, our home was a haven filled with laughter and love. If there was order it was because she ordered it - in no uncertain terms.<BR/><BR/>And Renee, my darling girl, I'll bet all your family feel exactly the same way about you.Tessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05233122532137654099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-45649937838807659392009-04-03T06:27:00.000-05:002009-04-03T06:27:00.000-05:00Haha. I read Bella's comment and it made me laugh....Haha. I read Bella's comment and it made me laugh. I think her mother and my mother went to the same "wife school". My mother once told me to serve my husband and take care of his needs. Although the advise made me protest, I saw to it that I meet my husband's needs without being servile. For heaven's sakes, I used to ask my patients and their families and visitors if they needed anything all the time and ask total strangers seemingly in need, why not someone I love! <BR/><BR/>Once his friends came over when we were just newly married, I asked if there was anything I can do for them if there was anything they needed. That really really registered a look of surprise in their faces. When I left the room, I heard one of them said that he wished he would find a wife like me. I frowned, thinking that they focused on the service act.<BR/><BR/>I have come to the realization that marriage has rules and obligations and each individual union has its own peculiar needs. I make sure there are three things in my mine: Love, Caring and Respect. The rest will come along.<BR/><BR/>I want my husband to feel very happy that he is married to me and so often he reminds me he is. But you know what? He gets out of his way to make me happy too, is always there for me and is the most loving and caring man, not just towards me but in general. When he gets out of town, his friends make sure the children and I, are safe and ask if we need anything. They are so respectful; they won't enter the house if they know I am alone. (Maybe they are afraid of me!). <BR/><BR/>His friends, now married, still say they wish I am free and want to marry me, in front of my husband. I just laugh. Come to think of it so do some of my male friends at work. Har har!<BR/><BR/>There's one thing I told my husband from the very beginning that I will not do and he DARE not ask: bring him beer. Yes, I will serve him dinner, bring him a glass of water to bed, pack his bags (he's never packed since we were married), give him his socks.<BR/>In return he does similar things for me. <BR/><BR/>One day I was in the kitchen and my husband and son were in the carport, I overheard my husband say to my son: "Son, one of the best things you can do for your own children someday is to love their mother." My heart jumped. I love my husband very much and as bitchy and demanding as I could be, I find honor and great satisfaction in making him happy, even more so now that we have children. He is a very good father.<BR/><BR/>When I married my husband I asked him two things: 1. Is there any history of mental illness in his family? 2. Has he been treated for any sexually transmitted disease?...and to promise me one thing: Never, ever, ever hit me and our children someday. He felt insulted and got so mad that I asked him to make this promise it was followed by an argument and a demand that I promise the same.<BR/><BR/>I think this “service and meeting needs issue” has been blown out of proportion by feminists who sometimes end up divorced and miserable and then go online to find a perfect match. I never feel subservient, on the contrary I feel like a diva to my husband. To me if you love or care for somebody, you do things for them and make them happy. In return, I find that many people ask me if they can do anything for me or if I need anything, etc. even the café server, the mail room clerk, our secretary, my fellow analysts and many others treat me special and go out of their way if I need anything. It’s the Golden Rule and I learned it before kindergarten.Ces Adoriohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17338000465619901229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-15412727098236230452009-04-03T05:03:00.000-05:002009-04-03T05:03:00.000-05:00All the 50s housewives carry that tray heaped with...All the 50s housewives carry that tray heaped with food. All of them. It is positively welded to their hands...pRiyAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11238366312590419659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-4843752016132086512009-04-03T00:26:00.000-05:002009-04-03T00:26:00.000-05:00Oooooh, I love the warmth of a fire. I will even ...Oooooh, I love the warmth of a fire. I will even light a fire in AZ. My husband, however, prefers a chilly room. When we honeymooned in Anguilla, he set the AC on so high that whenever we left our room, his glasses would immediately fog up. The housekeeping staff asked us, quite seriously, if we were from Alaska.<BR/><BR/>As for catering to his needs --- oh, jeez. I cater to the kids. He has to fend for himself most of the time. He's a grown man with arms and legs that work. Sometimes this gets me in trouble with his mother. Once, while we were visiting her, he fell asleep on the couch. Now, I know him, and I know how he prefers to be cool. So when his mother came and asked me if he needed a blanket, I said no. Then she turned and asked him if he wanted a blanket, and he said, "Oh, yes, that would be great." I felt like such a schmo.<BR/><BR/>My parents are from the generation that believed wives should cater to their husbands. I remember as a newlywed, they would bring me some apples and a knife and told me I should pare fruit for my husband. That's what a good wife did -- pare fruit beautifully for the family and guests. Riiigggghhht. I think I just handed him the apple whole.Bella Sinclairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02139728758198482234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-44560167316277095362009-04-02T23:57:00.000-05:002009-04-02T23:57:00.000-05:00Well! I thought I'd get a rise from that! :)Good n...Well! I thought I'd get a rise from that! :)<BR/><BR/>Good night's rest, Love.Ces Adoriohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17338000465619901229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-2039833526791501182009-04-02T22:02:00.000-05:002009-04-02T22:02:00.000-05:00Yeah sounds like a couple of old cokboos i've got ...Yeah sounds like a couple of old cokboos i've got that dispense advice along with the recipes.Strawberry Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03395571842364752995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-71225999325734743592009-04-02T21:49:00.000-05:002009-04-02T21:49:00.000-05:00Renee, my 13 y.o. daughter wants to say "thank you...Renee, my 13 y.o. daughter wants to say "thank you" for the compliment you gave her on my blog.Ces Adoriohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17338000465619901229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-35989754190274585102009-04-02T20:03:00.000-05:002009-04-02T20:03:00.000-05:00You are my haven.You are my haven.angeliquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02661588996964353315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-69582413070157333472009-04-02T18:34:00.000-05:002009-04-02T18:34:00.000-05:00Renee is this book for real? Seriously did anyone ...Renee is this book for real? Seriously did anyone ever do any of this stuff or did it just work to put all our mothers in a state of inadequacy and depression! <BR/> I received a wonderful little package in the mail today! I love Sarah and saw her in concert a couple of years ago,she is amazing! Loving the little Miss Giggles book!And how you can get your giggle back!!!<BR/> Thankyou sooo much Renee ! Unnecessary but much appreciated!<BR/> xoxo Sheri DeBowostrich girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17209104191102306655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-18118398044816076142009-04-02T17:23:00.000-05:002009-04-02T17:23:00.000-05:00Ha! First of all, I NEVER, EVER, get fooled on Apr...Ha! First of all, I NEVER, EVER, get fooled on April 1st. So, if I could draw or paint, I would make an award for the first person ever to succeed in that department.<BR/><BR/>You sound like me, I have always wanted to cook delicious meals in a Crockpot, but I'm afraid to leave it on all day long and risk starting a fire.<BR/><BR/>And, you get a "lift" from Wahid when he comes home, eh?? Lucky girl, well lucky for both of you!:) har-har-har.<BR/><BR/>Your housewife postings are why I never got married in the first place. It would have to be a very secure man who can do everything for himself. (In the "maintaining" the household and himself department.)<BR/><BR/>xoxoxox<BR/>Love ya,<BR/>NancyEvery Photo Tells A Storyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03914175541948429064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-16826037664043346312009-04-02T16:11:00.000-05:002009-04-02T16:11:00.000-05:00After the fire was lit I'm sure she rubbed her hus...After the fire was lit I'm sure she rubbed her husband's feet and brought him a cocktail while preparing dinner! lol! I'm sure glad I was born in the late sixties!Manonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13892591394375241132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-63793874756634332132009-04-02T16:06:00.000-05:002009-04-02T16:06:00.000-05:00Now that I have read several of these quizes, I th...Now that I have read several of these quizes, I think it's time we should go back to the 50's. I think they wer great times. I sure had a wonderful happy 50's! My Mother also seemed very happy, actually she was a happy and accomplished woman who was also devoted hosewife and great mother.<BR/>The only additional thing I want is that women will be allowed to walk side by side their husbands instead of following them. Hah!Ces Adoriohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17338000465619901229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6388558870650514383.post-75588337817731446182009-04-02T16:05:00.000-05:002009-04-02T16:05:00.000-05:00Works for me. I'm the houseperson, so anticipating...Works for me. I'm the houseperson, so anticipating and providing for Peggy's wants and needs is just part of my job description. If I didn't like it, I guess I could go out in the weather and work ten hour shifts at a stressful and exhausting job. She deserves being catered to. Of course, she's the one doing the catering now.Snowbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00436087215476479042noreply@blogger.com