Tuesday, 13 May 2008
Center Of My Circle
When Yvette and I were both working at Tax we would listen to Harry Potter on tape. We shared our tapes and our love of the story. We also shared our dislike of the Dementors in the series and would describe to each other how similar so many people in our office were. (I know that was Dementor behaviour on our part.)
Dementors are beings that suck the life out of a person. Literally they would put their mouth on yours and give you the kiss of death. Where they were there was no joy, everyone in their vicinity was left with a feeling of utter despair. We all know the refrain from the Dementors theme song; gloom and doom and doom and gloom, life is shitty and so are the people in it, mope, mope and more mope, gloom and doom and doom and gloom.
See how they can suck you in. I am totally getting away from myself because I am not here to talk about Harry Potter or Dementors. I am here to talk about the opposite of Dementors.
I am here to talk about Life-Lifters, which Yvette is one of and Jill was the master of.
My concept of a Life-Lifter is very simple. It is a person that chooses to uplift everyone around them. They are the type of people that after talking to them you always feel better, even if you can't remember what they said. They are the people who seem to have it altogether even if they swear that they don’t. People like to be around them because they are really interested in you as a person, as another human being on this planet. They care about your well-being and they want you to be happy. They themselves are happy.
I try to foster acceptance and understanding by living life as a Life-Lifter by:
Doing the small things that make life special.
Giving freely, without expectations.
Smiling at people.
Looking people in the eyes when talking to them.
Thinking of others.
Wishing upon a star.
Delighting in delighting others.
Laughing at myself.
Knowing that the road to hell is paved with good intentions.
Living by my word and meaning what I say.
Giving others a feeling of safety and understanding.
Seeing things in a positive manner.
Sharing hope and joy.
Understanding that everyone is special.
Being patient and kind.
Quietly doing things for others.
Not being a martyr.
Having a global conscience.
Making life better for those around me.
Giving people the benefit of the doubt.
Trusting in God.
Believing that dragons sing within the rocky mountains.
Talking to young children, especially teens.
Not feeling sorry for myself which is not the same as sometimes feeling sad for myself.
We need less Dementors in this world and more Life-Lifters. What do you say, do you want to hop on board?
Lets you and I choose to be the Life-Lifters within our circle. Pass on a kindness today even if it is just a little smile. Some soul out there needs it. And if it is you that needs it, then I am sending it to you. If you look you will find it in a child’s face.
So from the center of my circle I am sending all of you positive thoughts to your circle and beyond.