Friday, 18 September 2009

Times Three No. 10


















Our dear Sheldon needs your love and prayers.

Yesterday morning Sheldon’s breathing was getting labored.

In the afternoon a palliative doctor came and talked to Sheldon and told him they would be moving him to the palliative ward. Sheldon said “Oh, death row.” She said ‘No Sheldon, just that they will be able to respond to your needs faster and you will be more comfortable.’

She asked Sheldon how he felt about dying and he said that he was okay with it. He said “I am fine with it, but my family isn’t.”

There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go.

~~ Author Unknown ~~

55 comments:

sweetmango said...

I cant even begin to tell you how much Sheldon is in my thoughts every single day, I even dream about him.

If you could see energy you would see that there is a constant stream of energy from my heart to his. I tell everyone about Sheldon, everyone.

Sheldon, Jacqui and you and all your family have all my love and energy.

xxsm

Betty Manousos:cutand-dry.blogspot.com said...

Hi Renee,
I do agree with the last paragraph.
Acceptance!.
So nice to meet you.
I'd love if you followed me, as well.
Have a fabulous Friday!
Betty from SITS.
xx :)

Michelle said...

He has it....as do you

xxx

A Cuban In London said...

That question broke my heart. Despite death being the only certain thing we can be of in this life, it is still a terrying thought. I wish you loved one better.

Greetings from London.

suziart said...

God Bless you all. Prayers of love and comfort are being sent to Sheldon.

yoborobo said...

He is in my prayers. I will pray that he gets to be with you all a little longer. I will pray that if this is his time, he will have no pain. He is a good soul, a pure soul, and I know none of you want to let him go. I am so sorry, Renee. God bless him. xoxox Pam

Bonnie, Original Art Studio said...

Renee: I'm praying for Sheldon.

Dave King said...

Every blessing to all of you.

Lola said...

Dear Sheldon,

You don't know me, but I have met you through the words of our beloved Renee. She tells us about your suffering, and those of us who love Renee, love you too. I am so sorry, Sheldon that you are where you are.

Our words are void and they do not help heal you, I know.
You are in pain, not breathing well and scared. I wonder sometimes if you wish for the end to come to stop the suffering.

I don't know if you are religious. I am in my own unconventional way, not particularly fond of the Roman Catholic Church, but a believer none the less. I pray. I speak to God and Mary, like they are my parents whom I chat with. I ask. I give thanks. I apologise. I rant. I swear even, sometimes. I take it out on them sometimes. And I always ask "why?" when friends, children or loved ones are sick.
I have spoken to them about you too. And even if I don't know you personally, I always well up when I pray for you. Crying. That's what religious figures call true, intimate and deep communication with God.

I don't know where you find the strength to say you are OK with death. But I admire you and I pray that we may all be inspired by your strength and your courage.

You are special and you will always be. Forever.

A friend of Renee,
Lola

Delwyn said...

Dear Renee

I am so sorry and my prayers are with you...

Happy days

Meghann LittleStudio said...

Oh Renee I am so sorry your family is dealing with so many horrendous situations. I pray for you and your family daily.
Hold to God's hand and he'll help you through this awful time.
Hugs and prayers,
Meg xoxo
P.S. what a bummer about school rezoning every year, that must have been such a pain!

Woman in a Window said...

dear Renee
all my love
and what prayers i can manage from the bottom of my toes
xo
erin

Anonymous me said...

I have run out of words Renee, not in my prayers which happen daily as promised. Not in my fervent wishes and hopes. I just don't know what to say except I am glad Sheldon has you, I am glad that Jacqui and your mom and Flo have you. And I'm glad you have all of them too. There is nothing fair in any of this, but putting that aside I hope today is a good day. xx Jos

A Gift Wrapped Life said...

How could you be fine with it? This is so unfair. I admire Sheldon's strength. Prayers have never stopped. XO

kj said...

oh renee. no words. but i will pray my heart out. i am so sorry. my strongest prayers are with jacquie.

LDWatkins said...

My heart is breaking for all of you. Your family is in my prayers each night and morning when I check my prayer list. Bless Sheldon and bless all of you as you must let him go. Love and hugs to you, Lynda

Debra She Who Seeks said...

I've lit a candle on gratefulness.org for Sheldon and wish blessings on you all.

Angela Recada said...

You, Sheldon, Jacquie and your mom are always in my prayers and my heart.

Sheldon has been a gift to those who know him. And through you, he is a gift to us, too. His courage and dignity can teach us all something about what's truly important in life, and beyond. Love.

xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Angela

Sarah said...

Oh Renee...my heart is breaking for you all! Send my love to him and let him know he is, as you all are in my prayers! Special hugs for you my dear!
Love you, Sarah

studio lolo said...

Sheldon is an old soul in a young man's body. His bravery is touching and noble. I think he's trying to be strong for everyone else. It must be so hard to accept that you're dying at the same time your mother is gravely ill.
The whole scenario is heartwrenching and all any of us can do is to be present and loving. I hope they let Jacquie spend as much time with him as she can.

Praying still, sending love and hugs too.

xoxoxo
Lolo

Caio Fernandes said...

Sheldon is in my praying today Renee .
and you .... you pretty lady , have a happy weekend .

Deborah said...

Sheldon is such a Love. He wants you all to accept his fate...yes, a child shall lead them. I pray for a throng Angels to surround Sheldon, to lift and carry him, to keep his eyes focussed on his Perfect Life to come. I pray for Blessed Mother Mary to sit with Sheldon's mother and aunts and grandmother and to pull them all into her cloak of protection and strengthen them. I pray for the courage for all of us to stand in our faith, in our belief of the resurrection, especially when we do no understand the events unfolding. All my love to you, Renee, Sheldon, Jacquie, and all of the family. Deb

Annie said...

Fuck. I don't say that word often, but it is the only word that comes to mind right now. But also love and acceptance. Sheldon is so brave and strong. I hope for him and end to suffering. We don't know the reasons for everything, but I know there must be a good reason, there better be! Sending love and hugs and many prayers. xoxo

Barbara said...

So sorry. Sheldon is in my prayers, Renee. So are you and your family. White light, prayers, whatever helps. And imagine a long hug. Barbara

Caroline said...

Renee, I read your posts and am so often saddened by your outpourings yet don't know what I can say that others haven't already .. I do send love and though I do not often pray I am doing so now. Your last paragraph here is so apt. x0x Caroline

soulbrush said...

and he has my prayers, so do all of you. preparing yourselves is very important now.

Marie S said...

Oh my sweet, I am so sorry for all your hurting hearts.
Love and huge hugs.

Anonymous said...

Dear Sweetheart
I came to your blog today, eager to see Fantasy Friday. As I have entered your world and you are so part of my world, today I will tell you my fantasy. In my fantasy there is no illness stalking in the corridors. there is no darkness. There is only a emerging of spirit beings dancing within the brillance of the northern lights. The ancestors sing softly Take Heart. We are with you. Heyya heyya. Dance high. Dance low. Dance aroung. We are with you. Heyya Heyya. A Warrior comes. Heyya Heyya

I am with you Renee, sending you and your family lots of love & prayers.

Love DPG

karen gerstenberger said...

I'm sorry it's getting more difficult for Sheldon, but glad that he will have constant care and pain control in palliative care. Clearly, he still has a sense of humor!
I am praying for him & all of you, for peace, mercy and blessings - whatever is needed, each moment - and may each moment be held in LOVE!
Thank you for posting that quote; I love it. So true, as you know.
FYI, because of you & all you have written about "Cancer: 50 Things...," I am at work on a book for adolescents with cancer. You writings about that book inspired me. THANK YOU! XO

Odd Chick said...

i believe in the power of prayer and i will pray for Sheldon. this is such a difficult road you're walking...i will pray for you too.

you said you were not an artist. are these not your paintings? i love the one of the big-eyed girl with the bird on the her shoulder.

Sara Williams said...

Really sorry, my thoughts and prayers are with you all x

Jaliya said...

Mary Oliver, from "In Blackwater Woods":

Every year
everything
I have ever learned

in my lifetime
leads back to this: the fires
and the black river of loss
whose other side

is salvation,
whose meaning
none of us will ever know.
To live in this world

you must be able
to do three things:
to love what is mortal;
to hold it

against your bones knowing
your own life depends on it;
and, when the time comes to let it go,
to let it go.

... Loving you and holding your family in the Light ... xoxo

Artistic Accents by Darla said...

I'm so, so sorry Renee. Please give Sheldon a hug and tell him he is loved and cared for by many. I will pray for him and your whole family.
I'm so sad......
Love, Darla

Bella Sinclair said...

Darling Renee,

I pray for your strength, I pray for his comfort, I pray for a breakthrough. You are all in my heart and heavily on my mind. I wish I could provide you with more shelter.

I love you.

Marion said...

Sending you and your precious family prayers and love dearest Renee. (((((Hugz)))))

glorv1 said...

Oh Renee, I'm so sorry that Sheldon is ailing. My thoughts and prayers are with both of you. I will pray for Sheldon.

glorv1 said...

Hi Renee. How is Sheldon doing? How are you and your family doing? Life is so hard sometimes. Thoughts and prayers with you and your as always. Take care.

linda cardina said...

i am praying for u all ... always...love u renee.

Jeanne said...

Oh, ma chere Renee, I am so so so so sorry you're going through this.

Sending loving thoughts flying northward....

Anonymous said...

Oh Renee,I am so sorry to hear Sheldon health has deteriorated. I am praying for his peace. Barb

Baino said...

OH my darling. All I can wish for your lovely boy is a swift and painless passage. I'm so sad for you, so sad. He's a brave and wonderful soul indeed.

Rob-bear said...

Wonderful answer from the doctor about palliative care. I've done a lot of work with people in palliative care (including family), and the doctor nailed that one perfectly.

Wonderful answer from Sheldon about dying.

And the family says . . .?

rochambeau said...

So sad and sorry Renee.
Now I have my answer about your post above, by reading your post here.
Sending all of my love to Jacquie and your and your family.
Love,
Constance

Ribbon said...

sometimes the pain in life is just too big..
I'm a little lost for words... but I have love vibes a plenty that I'm sending to Sheldon and all of you.

xx ribbon :)

Daria said...

Oh my, Renee, my heart goes out to you and your family.

I don't know what else to say. I'm so sorry.

clairedulalune said...

(((soft tender hugs)))

Sherry Byrum said...

Such a lovely quote and oh so true!

Barry said...

This is heart breaking. He is showing such courage and clarity of thought at such a difficult time.

Miss Becky said...

may peace be with you and your loved ones

merelyadream said...

I am so sorry about your loss of Sheldon. I know deep it hurts. I lost my Nephew when he just turned 30.
My prayers go out to him, you and the family, blessings to you all
Cat

Oops! Desperate Blogger~ said...

I love this ~ There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go.
Tell me sweet Renee...is Sheldon the Prince resting in peace now?
Sending you much love,
Cindy

Diana Evans said...

oh my heart is so sad ....I am here when you need me....

Hugs
Diana

Debra said...

Oh God I am so sorry Renee. I have prayed for peace, and the end of suffering. I am so sorry for your family and dear Jacquir right now.

Wendy said...

Love and Light to you and your family. Dear Sheldon does sound like an old soul, full of wisdom and courage.

BT said...

I pray for strength for you all. Sheldon is clearly an exceptional person and I admire his resignation and attitude.