Tuesday, 4 August 2009
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‘Cancer – 50 Essential Things to Do’ is a book by Greg Anderson which I used as a guide to journal what I needed to work through in the immediate aftermath of being diagnosed with Stage 4 Inflammatory Breast Cancer in February, 2006. I knew already that I cannot allow this to be a run-away horse.
Quotes from the book will be in italics.
Evaluate Your Self-Talk (32):
Fear does not overwhelm us without our consent.
*Self-talk is the ancestor of your current experience of illness and life.
Situation A – you are angry at the doctor for his arrogance, his impatience with your questions, and the limited amount of time e spends with you.
My positive self-talk: I am in control of my medical team and this doctor’s actions are unacceptable. Since I am not intimidated by the process I will let this doctor know, very clearly, that I expect my questions to be answered and that at my next appointment he may need to schedule more time as this is my life and I have a vested interest in it. I understand he may have many patients, but I need him or someone (nurse) he believes can speak for him to spend more time with me.
Situation B – It’s 3 a.m. and you’re wide awake, consumed with thoughts and fears of suffering and self-pity.
My positive self-talk: This is helping no one. It’s three in the morning and I need my sleep. I’m not suffering and when/or if I ever do, there will be lots of time for me to feel sorry for myself then. Fear is the mind killer and I have nothing to fear because God is with me.
Situation C – Your energy level is at an all-time low. You are tired and discouraged, questioning if you can take any more.
My positive self-talk: I will need to let my medical team know that I have no energy and I am feeling depressed. They can tell me what I need to boost my energy level and in the meantime I will make an appointment with the oncology psych worker to talk over how I am feeling. This is where my social support team will be needed.
My self-talk is positive.
Choose A Daily Affirmation (33):
Mom’s affirmation: In every day and every way I am feeling better.
Affirmations are consciously chosen self-talk.
I love life; this is my moment.
There is nothing in all the world I fear.
I am free from worry. I know peace.
The Lord is my Shepherd. I shall not want.
Manage Your Toxic Stress (34):
Toxic stress is emotional overload.
Stress works at cross-purposes to wellness.
Pick a phrase which triggers the relaxation response. ‘The Lord is my Shepherd.’
*artwork by my dear friend Lynne Hoppe